THE UNSPOKEN CONTRACT
I learnt the rules too.
Somewhere along the way, I learnt to put everyone else's wants before my own.
Be easy - Don't make a fuss
Be grateful - Don't ask for more.
Keep the peace - Don't disappoint
Be sure - Don't change your mind.
I became very good at knowing what everyone else needed and somewhere along the way, I stopped asking what I wanted.
Not more than everyone else's. Not less.
Just as much.
A LIFE WITH MORE OF YOU IN IT
What if your wants mattered, too?
Sound familiar?
Feel the difference.
"You can care about other people without minimising your desires."
01.
THE DOUBT IS SO LOUD
I've spent so long considering what everyone else wants, I'm not even sure what I want anymore.
02.
I'M NOT ALLOWED
I know what I want, but I feel selfish or guilty for wanting it. Surely I need a good enough reason?
03.
I CAN'T ASK
I rehearse the conversation, explain myself a hundred different ways, and end up saying nothing.
04.
I CAN'T HOLD IT
I finally say what I mean. Then someone gets upset, and suddenly I'm questioning everything again.
01.
I KNOW
I'm learning to hear what I want, even when it's different from what everyone else expects.
02.
I CAN, I MAY, I WILL.
I can want something simply because I want it. I don't have to earn it, justify it or ask permission.
03.
I SPEAK UP
I can say what I mean, ask for what matters and let my words be enough.
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03.
I TRUST MYSELF
​Someone can be disappointed, and I can still trust my choice. Their reaction doesn't automatically mean I'm wrong.
Not a different you. Just a life with more of you in it.
YOU DON'T HAVE TO KEEP DOING IT THE OLD WAY.
You know something needs to change.
Let's find out what.
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